to the girl in her 20s

do not loose heart.

to the girl in your 20s. i see you. you’re waiting. patiently. or maybe not so patiently and that's okay too. but you’re waiting on something. a husband, community, a career, financial stability, a baby.

you’re in the season of life where everywhere you turn you see someone who has what you desperately long for and desire.

open instagram:

+ engagement + girl’s night + graduation + travel + baby announcement + repeat

you go through cycles of hope and then heartbreak. cycles of "maybe this is the moment." "maybe this is the person." "maybe this is the month." only to eventually to find out it’s not and the lump of disappointment sits in your chest like a cold brick.

all the while wondering if God actually said - if he actually promised that to you. if it will happen for you. wondering if that dream will become reality.

and people, with every best intention of giving you hope, put their stories on top of yours and say things like, “he’s in the waiting…” or "he did this for me so he will do it for you too," but the reality is that they are slapping a truth bandaid on top of your feelings by simply not caring enough to listen to your heart, know you for you and contend with you for something real.

and while yes. they are right. he is in the waiting. and if you choose to look for him, you WILL find him in the most beautiful way (sometimes more so in this season than the good seasons). you will find him in all of his goodness. fully god in the disappointments. fully god in the sadness. fully god in the waiting.

this, though, doesn’t always take away the lump in your throat when you see someone else have what you so desperately long for. the tears that come when you see that instagram story or facebook post. or that little voice in your head saying “why does everyone else get what they ask god for except me?”

hear me when i say:

do not give into the lie that god does not have that dream for you because he does.

he is faithful. even when we are faithless. the dream will come.

and i know it may be hard - the waiting.

but do not loose heart.

because you are seen and you’re not alone.

- your 20 something yr old friend who is waiting too